This week, the G.I.R.L.S. Club had a self-esteem speaker come in and talk with the girls about “love languages” and affirmation. This is an important factor for young girls because they often struggle with knowing how to get their needs met, and how to meet the needs of others, in both romantic and non-romantic relationships.
The speaker asked the girls to take a quiz on their love language, and all the results pointed to the girls having a high need for affirmation. The speaker explained that what these results told her was that the girls had a need for hearing encouraging and loving words. The speaker said that girls who score high in the affirmation division often give out affirmative responses to their friends and loved ones, and asked if this was true of our girls. To which the girls responded that they did.
However, when asked to give words of affirmation to their friends, the girls struggled. As I sat back and watched this exchange, two things came to my mind: one was that maybe the girls do know how to pass out affirmative words but did not want to do it under pressure. But the other option is that the girls may want to speak affirmative and encouraging words, but are not given them on a regular basis and therefore struggle giving them to others. Option two shows why Gwen’s Girls is so important – if a child is not receiving encouraging phrases at home at least they are exposed to it in a program like Gwen’s Girls where a seed can be planted and cultivated to help these girls learn such things.